This is where my impatience comes in, where I find myself with lots of energy but nowhere to direct it. I start planning, over planning, and obsessing on details I can’t do a thing about.
It is still too early to give any details on this latest exercise in What Next but I’m ready, willing, and waiting no so patiently.
What do you do with all your energy when you find yourself dependent on others?
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Last week was a very muddled, hectic, and confused week for me, mentally. I think I started writing seven different blog posts but finished only three of them. As soon as one idea cropped up, another pushed it out. I couldn’t focus and felt like things were slipping away from me. I was frustrated.
In What Next A Proactive Approach to Success (paperback or eBook) I have a chapter called “Self-Diagnosis” which discusses the link between success and bipolar disorder. There is another form of bipolar disorder called hypomania which is defined as “a mood state characterized by persistent and pervasive elevated (euphoric) or irritable mood.” Many successful people may share this elevated mood and for me it often leads to confusion, impatience, and frustration.
When I find myself in this state, I let it go, I don’t make any decisions (or try not to) so I don’t end up making a rushed decision that I’ll regret later. It’s kind of like sleep, when your mind is able to process the day and put it in order, I give myself time to let things settle.
I’ve had something on my mind and now I’m beginning to move forward. Tomorrow I’ll begin the process of blogging about my new plans. Stay tuned!
I have two questions for you. First, do you get that same feeling of confusion with lots of ideas and no place to put them? And second, what do you do about it? Please share in the comments section below.
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Patience and what next do not play well together. When I interviewed Scott Loughmiller, an entrepreneur, he said “I have a lot of hobbies that don’t seem to go anywhere.” In the book I used that statement as a sign of curiosity, as a good trait to have, but there is a dark side to that as well.
As my plans are delayed, as obstacles arise, I tend to, well, give up. If things aren’t moving at my speed then I get frustrated and move on to the next project. That is the downside to what next but it’s not as bad as it seems.
Sure, you can think negatively saying “you never finish anything you start.” That might be true in some cases but the other way of looking at it is to understand that’s how entrepreneurs, creative people, sort through the ideas and concepts that won’t work to find the ones that do.
The important distinction to note is that once I find an idea or project I believe in, even though I may have given up on many others, I am willing to continue with that one no matter what. That is the exact point I’m at with What Next, the book.
I believe in honesty, in sharing how I feel and why I feel that way. I am being completely up front and honest about the fact that I’m not happy with my progress getting the book noticed, in the sales numbers. It’s not that I’m upset that I spent X dollars but only got Y dollars back. The money isn’t the problem.
My frustration comes from the fact that when I talk to people about the book they become excited, they share their dreams, their desire for more success, for a better future, with me personally and yet those same people won’t share those thoughts on the website or on Facebook. Lots of people tell me they want more but I don’t see that they are willing to work for it. That is the source of my frustration.
Here’s an excerpt from the book:
I felt like I was the only one talking about “what next”! My dreams, my hopes for the future were clear to me and anyone who listened to me, but I knew very little of the dreams and desires of my friends and family. Was it because they didn’t have any, that they were afraid to articulate their dreams, or that they were too busy playing catch-up that they had no time for progress? There is another option, however. They simply could have been content, happy to continue on the trail they had chosen. To one degree or another all of these answers are true. Though I may not have known their dreams, I did know that many of them were not happy about where they were and where they thought they were going.
Are you one of those people who aren’t happy with where you are and where you’re going? If so then say it, announce it to me, to your friends and family, to the world, only then can you begin to work toward your goal, only then will you have the incentive to get moving.
I have shared something others might hide, announced my frustration, told you what I want to change, and now I feel better. Now I will redouble my efforts to share concepts and ideas that I believe in with all my heart. Are you willing to do the same? Well are you?
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