Disappointment is temporary, success is resilient. I had to tell myself that and other things many times yesterday before they stuck, before I believed them. First I had to let the emotions that were inside out (a heavy bag helped), let them be free so I could be free.
What happened? I was passed over for a promotion I wanted, one that I, and everyone who knew me, thought I’d be perfect for. I had the support of the previous holder of that position who had moved up himself and yet when the decision was made it wasn’t me.
I write in What Next that “Your own idea of a route to a place you’ve never been is rarely accurate.” I thought I knew the way my career would progress and this job was the next logical destination. Then bam! A roadblock, a detour.
I can complain, I can be angry, I can feel rejected but none of those things change the situation. I have to not only take my own advice but live it – otherwise I’m a fraud. I have to ask What Next because what next is all I have.
I’m all for living in the moment but sometimes the moment sucks and it’s up to me to change it.
The good news is that each time I’ve asked what next before has prepared me for this moment because I have options. I have options that people who never ask what next don’t have. I have the ability to make a rash decision and quit but that’s not the what next way. The what next way stays on the current path until a new path is prepared. I may stay on the current path even after venturing onto a new path or maybe I’ll make a clean break.
After I got the news about the promotion I went for a long walk in Central Park and by the end my pace had increased from a slow lumbering walk to a confident stride and I was smiling because disappointment is temporary but success is resilient.
Posted in General, Success and tagged disappointment, resil, success by AJ with 6 comments.